Break Up Depression

 

Break up Depression – 7 Strategies to Help you Now

Ending a relationship can be one of the hardest times in anyone’s life. But there are things you can do to ease break up depression. Just follow a few simple strategies to make this time of heartbreak less painful.

 

Can you relate to any of this?

-          constant crying

-          lack of motivation to work/study

-          loss of appetite

-          out of control emotions

-          hostility to friends and family

-          overwhelming sense of despair

-          anxiety attacks

 

You are probably going through break up depression. It is a horrendous feeling and can be emotionally and physically debilitating. While it feels like it will never end and you don’t even want to carry on doing the day-to-day things in your life, I can assure you that IT WILL PASS. This is guaranteed – it will pass.

How quickly break up depression passes depends on how you choose to approach it. Remember it’s not so important what happens to us, but how we deal with what happens to us. Here are some basic rules that can speed up the break up depression process and have you back to a place where you free of the emotional bondage.

1) Keep up appearances – both your looks and your social appearances

2) Keep talking about it – there is a transformative power in sharing your feelings with those who love you

3) Date, flirt and put yourself back out on the market. There is no better cure to breakup depression than feeling desired and appreciated by other people. It is NOT superficial – we all need flattery and it helps us to see that there are other OPTIONS. This is something that the break up depression can cloud – making you feel like your ex is the last person you will ever be with. NOT TRUE. Get out and hustle. Join an online dating service like Plenty of fish – its free. There are literally thousands of people online. Even if you are not ready to start dating yet, it could just be fun to flirt at explore your options.

4) Don’t focus on all the negative things about him – this never helps. It will just make you resentful and angry. You need to be positive and focused on your own happiness and freedom

5) KEEP ACTIVE – whether its work, exercise, hobbies or going out. This is a MUST – the bottom line is that you need to ACT. I’m not going to tell you something patronizing like to “take a walk” or “read a book”. That may be what you want to do – but you know what’s right for you and what you enjoy doing. For me it was my work (which I love) seeing my girlfriends, trying out a new restaurant, running at the gym (and flirting), buying nice things to furnish my apartment, reading healthy nutrition magazines and yoga. That’s me. Find your own list or try something new

6) VISUALIZE yourself happy and emotionally free. See yourself telling people “I am completely over it, I never even think about him, I am dating this new amazing guy, I actually know now that it was the best thing, I cant even believe I was so upset…”

Visualize yourself in a happy, fulfilling relationship – whether it’s with your ex or someone new. Keep that vision in your mind – whatever it is for you. Whether you get back with him or not doesn’t matter. YOU need to be free. Your freedom and detachment needs to come first before anything else can happen.

7) Never, ever, ever compare new people you meet to your ex. This is a recipe for disaster. You are still emotionally attached and can NOT see clearly. Every new person will come off second best. Remember: compare and despair!

 

Break up depression CAN be dealt with. We have all been through it. Get more info and detailed support with the Magic of Making Up e-book. This changed my life and showed me how I was giving away all my power and hence not getting him back. You can download it now and start doing something about your break up depression. It is filled with insights and taught me the most overlooked secret for getting your boyfriend back.

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